Real conversations are revealing and inspiring

In A day in the life of, Agile, Be brave, beyourself, Change, Courage, Curiosity, Habits, Inspiring, Listening, Love, Nurture, Passion, Perseverance, Scrum Master, Together, Trust by chuzzeteLeave a Comment

What brought me to write this post? 

When I started my Agile Coaching journey, back then in 2014, I found this free course called Inspiring Leadership through Emotional Intelligence, offered by professor Richard Boyatzis from Case Western Reserve University, that totally shifted the way I was leading myself and others. The one thing I learned about the power of Positive and Negative Emotional Attractors and how being in a PEA could influence the way I coach people and teams, inspire change, strive and flourish.

Last week, when working with one of my mentees, we discussed the possibilities of being in a PEA state and how it could influence and change things around him. When I asked about the emotions he wanted to experience and where, he referred some of the words listed in the picture below:

And then he said he wanted to experience all these emotions, during a recurring meeting of him.

Here is the exercise we did together:

  • I asked him to think about the taste in mouth he has, once he leaves that meeting.
  • I invited him to name it, using a fruit. He referred to the taste of a lemon.
  • Then I asked him to describe the reasons behind its choice, and connect that to the body sensations he was feeling when describing the experience.
  • I invited him to think about the taste of a fruit he loves and to describe what he experiences when he eats one. He said a Clementines and you could see joy through a great smile appearing on his video webcam.
  • Then I challenged him by asking him:
    • What would be different if the taste in mouth you get by the end of that meeting, would be the taste of a delicious Clementine?
    • What do you need to change to make that happen?
    • What fear is holding you back?

I learned that …

  • It brings me joy, hope and playfulness to connect with others at the level I mentioned above.
  • Help people find their voice, reconnect with their true self, and regain confidence through mentoring and agile coaching is one of my greatest passions in life.
  • Once I am able to build a connexion with another human being, everything is possible.
  • It feels great being myself and getting cleared about who I am, and what my super powers are. Human connexion is one of my superpowers.

My invitation is to dive deep into the realm of real conversations

I personally thank you for reading my article. I celebrate your courage, bravery, perseverance and resilience.

Here some reflections I have for you today:

  • What kind of conversations are you currently having?
  • How do you build human connexions around you? Are real conversations part of your daily habits?
  • What is present for you after reading this article?
  • How are you nurturing your PEAs and building self awareness about NEAs? 

Please stay at home, take a deep breath, keep yourself safe, and remember that:

No matter what happens, I strongly believe that we are incredibly better together!


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