What brought me to write this post?
Two weeks ago when offering feedback to my friend and colleague Joseph Rossi, he noticed I was turning around the point, avoiding to be straight and direct with him. When finally I delivered my feedback to him, he asked me what follows:
Jesus, I felt you trying to envelop your message instead of being direct with me. When you did that, something felt off and you lost my attention.
Once he said that, I asked him to try again and once I told him directly what I felt was true to me, we both felt strongly connected by something greater than both of us.
That makes me wonder…
- How many times have I doubted myself and turned around the truth? What did I fear?
- What is my friend and dear saboteur “Tom, the pleaser” doing to me, when something I consider to be the truth needs to be said?
- How many times I was off when trying to be direct with others?
- What would be different if we were honest, direct when telling our truth to others around us?
I learned that …
- It feels so good to tell your truth, that I will continue doing it.
- I am able to be direct with people as a way to show I care about them.
- Once I got permission from the other partie, being honest and direct is a gift for both of us.
- Telling the truth frees me, allows me to be the most authentic version of myself and accept who I am.
- Being direct is a way to take care of myself and others too.
My invitation is to find the truth that frees you
Here some reflections I have for you today:
- How often do you tell your truth going straight to the point?
- What do you do to stay true to yourself, your values and principles?
- What is holding you back to be the most honest, direct and truthful version of yourself?
- Imagine just for a moment, that you practice honesty, being straight with people and direct when communicating. What is possible now?
Please stay at home, take a deep breath, keep yourself safe, and remember that:
No matter what happens, I strongly believe that we are incredibly better together!